Do You Blame Others for How You Feel?
Do You Blame Others for How You Feel? It might seem logical to blame others when someone has been rude or hurtful to you. Venting your emotions at a person or a situation might feel justified. However, what if I told you that the true nature of your feelings is cultivated and created by you? Therefore, nobody can be the literal blame for how you feel, but they do contribute to your reactions based on your belief systems. Don’t get me wrong; I am no saint. When my nine-year-old son pushes all my buttons, I often feel the words slip out: “Stop winding me up, you know I am getting angry.” But I catch myself and turn those words around, instantly telling him, “You are not responsible for my reactions, I am. However, the way you are speaking to me right now is upsetting for me.” This is a serious bomb diffuser. My only wish is that I continue to hold my awareness in all situations, enabling me to share this wonderful wisdom with you. Taking Responsibility for Your Emotions It takes practice, trust me, but a world without blame over the smallest things, with the recognition of self and our belief systems, could genuinely change the world in which we live. Many of us have become so introverted in our true essence of self that we look to blame, not grow, in these moments. If we were taught at a young age that all emotions are simply guides telling us what feels right or wrong for us, hostility, blame, and even perhaps war could be eradicated. Understanding and Harnessing Your Emotions Understanding the true self, being able to harness your emotions, and using them as fuel for your evolution is incredibly important. Here are some practices that can help you cultivate inner awareness and use your emotions constructively: Daily Movement Practice – Engage in activities like yoga, tai chi, or any form of exercise that you enjoy. Movement helps release stagnant energy and promotes emotional balance. Journaling – Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide clarity and help you understand your emotional triggers and patterns. Connecting with Nature – Spend time outdoors, whether it’s walking in the park, hiking, or simply sitting in your garden. Nature has a grounding effect that can bring inner peace. Eating and Maintaining Your Body – Nourish your body with healthy foods and maintain regular physical care. Your physical health directly impacts your emotional well-being. Humming or Singing Uplifting Songs – Engage in vocal activities that lift your spirits and help release emotional tension. Practices for Creating Inner Equilibrium To create equilibrium within and seize those moments of greater purpose necessary for your evolution and those around you, consider incorporating these practices into your daily routine: Mindful Breathing – Practice deep, mindful breathing to calm your mind and centre yourself in the present moment. Meditation – Spend a few minutes each day in meditation to cultivate inner peace and awareness. Gratitude Practice – Reflect on what you are grateful for each day to shift your focus from negativity to positivity. Positive Affirmations – Use positive affirmations to reprogram your belief systems and cultivate a positive mindset.