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What Are You Addicted To?

Chocolate? Sugar? Alcohol? Sex? A good time? Do you get bored and restless easily? Do you make dramatic changes led by lust or excitement? Many of us think of addicts as somebody who’s on drugs or an alcoholic, but we often overlook the repeated cycles in our lives—those familiar patterns that people love blaming karma on. These are simply patterns of behavior or addictions you’ve become accustomed to, just like an old record player playing the same album over and over again. It spins round and round until you realize that the patterns you perhaps blame others for, or the karma you blame, can all be changed by challenging your belief systems and recognizing your part in creating your own life.

Life Doesn’t Happen to Us, We Create It

Life is created by our thoughts, our patterns of behaviour, and what we attract into our lives based on the frequency of what we put out there into the world. It sounds simple to say, “Hey, you just need to look at your belief systems and stop blaming karma and everybody else,” but I can tell you from personal experience, it’s not. Dealing with serious addictions is no light-hearted matter either.

Addictions and the Lack of Connection to Your True Self

If I suggest that addictions are caused by a lack of connection to your true self, how does that make you feel? You may have a tiny addiction to coffee; you wake up, it makes you feel alive, responsive, alert, and energetic. I’m guilty of pushing my body physically at times and using caffeine as a means to do so. I’ve also been addicted to abusive relationships, dramatic life-changing choices, and for many, many years, I blamed everyone else around me. I was the victim. Nobody understood me, the pain I’d been through, and how isolated and detached I felt from people. But my only real detachment was from myself.

Personal Journey with Addiction

When I was younger, I took drugs either to drown out how I felt, so I could hurt less and desensitize myself, or simply as an upper to try and fit in with my surroundings. I was addicted to so many habits, behaviours, and cycles—my record was definitely stuck on a loop. So how do we connect with ourselves truly and even witness these addictive behaviours?

Creating Space in Our Minds

We need to create space in our ever-thinking, over-analytical head brains and drop down deeper into the heart brain and the gut brain. This is hard science, not woo-woo—we have three brains. We are just mainly led by the one that can get you in a real pickle, especially when dealing with your emotions. It’s like trying to stop an elephant (your emotional, feeling, sensing brains) with a mouse (the head brain). Now you know why people literally can feel like they are going mad, or do become mad, trying to perceive the world with one brain when we have three.

For more details on this, check out these books:

  1. “The Brain That Changes Itself” by Norman Doidge – Explores the brain’s ability to adapt and rewire itself, offering insights into breaking addictive patterns.
  1. “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle – Discusses the importance of living in the present moment and how it can help you become aware of and break free from addictive behaviours.
  1. “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself” by Dr. Joe Dispenza – Explains how to change your thoughts and habits to create a new life and overcome addiction.

Seeing the Panoramic Vision of Your Life

To see the bigger picture of your life and become aware of those addictive behaviors, you need to break the mental chatter of your mind and go into silence. There are many ways to do this, such as movement with breath that takes you into a meditative state. Practices like Kundalini Yoga, Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Aikido, and other forms of energy-based exercises can help. The key is to find what resonates with you.

When we create space in our minds and welcome in the silence, we see the bigger picture. We know what it is to live in an awakened state, and that awakened state is what brings you home to the truth, beauty, and magnitude of you.

So much love. So many blessings.

For a tailored approach to reconnecting with the true nature of the wonderful you, just reach out—my consultations are free.

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